Navigating differences can be hard. Asking for what you really want might feel super vulnerable. When we find ourselves judging... am I too much? Should I be more... ? Will my partner ever change?... These shame-fueled thought patterns breed self-doubt and actually block us from communicating effectively about our desire and finding the ways we can build a bridge through our differences.
Just so you know, YOU ARE ENOUGH!
Resources
CONSENT is as easy as FRIES.
Freely Given
Reversible
Informed
Enthusiastic
Specific
Sacramento Area Sex Positive Professionals Directory
https://docs.google.com/document/d/1SQZG0BsBl_YBl4mObh4taT2SuHl2YmOM/
Map of Non-Monogamy
Map of Non-monogamy
https://blog.franklinveaux.com/2017/12/an-update-to-the-map-of-non-monogamy/
Videos
YouTube Video on How to Get the Sex You Want - Want, Will, Won’t Video https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xoYxd3E3UXU
APPS
The App Spicer is for couples who want to improve their communication with one another. With over 12,000 questions, the ability to customize questions, the option to skip questions, and the opportunity to receive daily questions Spicer is sure to assist folks wanting to tackle those hard to discuss topics of wants and desires without shame. https://spicer.app/
Books
Ask: Building Consent Culture by Katie Stryker
https://www.amazon.com/Ask-Building-Consent-Kitty-Stryker/dp/1944934251
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life by Mark Mason
https://www.amazon.com/Subtle-Art-Not-Giving-Counterintuitive/dp/0062457713
Unf--k Your Brain: Using Science to Get Over Anxiety, Depression, Anger, Freak-Outs, and Triggers by Faith G. Harper, Ph.D. LCP-S ACS ACN
https://www.amazon.com/Unfuck-Your-Brain-Depression-Freak-Outs/dp/1621063046